Parenting is easily influenced by the social and cultural practices in the environment where parents stay with their children. It is, therefore, a constantly changing activity. Even then, the role of parenting style in the psychopathy and development of the children cannot be ignored (Shithya, Manohara, & Vijaya, 358). This essay compares the impact of Western and Eastern parenting approaches to identify the one which promotes the future success of children. The main argument is that when it comes to parenting, the Asian parents outperform the Americans (Chua 1). Here, the effectiveness of parenting method depends on high level of strictness, which is unique to Asian culture. The increasingly strict style of parenting is authoritative. It requires high responsiveness and parents using this approach tend to exert high demands on their children. On the positive side, authoritarian parents understand and respond to the needs of their children (Shithya et al. 358). This style, therefore, makes the Eastern parenting method better than any other styles employed by the Western parents.

The highly strict parenting encourages attainment of desirable academic goals

Shithya et al. reported that authoritarian mothers raise children with the highest overall adjustment and best academic achievements (379). The authoritative parenting approach is similar to the Chinese style of parenting. As Chua stated, children and even adults enjoy doing things that they are good at, but children will not invest the required effort in perfecting themselves without the intervention of parents (2). Parents are generally more knowledgeable and understand what it takes to achieve the goals that they desire for their children. Even if the Chinese parents’ involvement in their children’s lives may at times interfere with the childhood preferences, it helps to maintain a consistent focus on what is important to avoid interruptions or confusion. The less strict parenting found in Western parenting system may, thus, expose children to more difficulties in selection of academic goals and career paths.

Authoritative parents avail the resources and support that children need to attain success

Huang, Cheah, and Lamb stated that the Chinese parenting style effectively supports the children to invest extra effort in what they do because they get the protection, motivation, and support they need to achieve the established goals (808). Chua discussed that when children start doing better in mathematics, playing piano or bullet, the Chinese parents begin to praise them and even show them an admiration which indicates satisfaction (2). This causes the children to develop confidence and to start enjoying what they do. A child in such a situation is more likely work harder to maintain the admiration and keep getting praises from the parents. On the other hand, any parenting style less than authoritative signifies a decline in parents’ involvement in their children’s academic and extra-curricular activities. The lack of involvement also means that parents do not know the resources which can make the children perform better.

Children Never Forget the Childhood Teachings Even as Adults

The cultural beliefs and norms instilled in children through authoritative parenting become a part of their lives no matter where they go. Moreover, they get to value the cultural beliefs so much that they pass the practices to their children. Chua said that getting the children on the right track may be very difficult at first but unlike the Western parents who give up, Chinese mothers do everything to ensure proper behavior in children. The outcome of these efforts is a virtuous circle (2). Huang et al. found that although the Chinese mothers that immigrated to the United States scored lower in authoritarian parenting scale compared to mothers in Taiwan, their cultural beliefs and attitudes were unchanged (809). The authors indicated that even in the United States, immigrant Chinese mothers still managed to encourage obedience and the model of “good kids” (809). The lower authoritarian style in Chinese immigrant mothers results from the alteration in parenting practices due to the acculturation process. These are expected outcomes because immigrant parents have to implement the child-rearing styles and methods practiced by the dominant culture. However, the strength of authoritarian parenting still stands strong against complete acculturation. Huang et al. indicated that whether immigrant or not, the perception of parental warmth remained the same among Chinese youth and parents. This clearly proves that Chinese mothers that immigrate to the United Kingdom or the United States will not drift away from their culture-specific parenting approaches. The Chinese cultural beliefs are so strong that they resist the changes in the new environments that the parents move in to. Contrarily, Chua noted that this virtuous circle is absent in the Western society.

The very strict parenting method promotes self-regulation

One of the vital points discussed by Chua is the belief by Chinese parents that the children owe them everything (3). The author associates this belief to filial piety of Confucianism and parents’ efforts in ensuring the children achieve their best performance. Huang et al. explained that self-regulation among children is a priority in Confucian societies (808). Also, the task of ensuring that children invest significant effort in the tasks they have to complete becomes a joint role of the parents, family members, the learning institutions, and the whole society (809). This means that Chinese children are taught to monitor and control their emotions, thoughts, and manners in a way that the society considers acceptable.

The Confucian society members are individuals that engage in loving relationships, promote wellbeing, and embrace learning. Such cannot be found in Western societies where parents believe that the children do not owe them anything, as they did not choose to be born. The Chinese parenting style is very effective because what the parents’ demand from the children is constant obedience and concentration on activities that make the parents proud. The focus on self-regulation also encourages the upbringing of very responsible society members. It is the reason Chinese parents are not bothered by their young ones’ self-esteem (Chua 3). Chinese parents believe that the children can achieve excellent grades (As) and, unlike the Western parents, Chinese mothers do not have to keep reminding the children about their capabilities.


An authoritative style of parenting works better that authoritarian or other approaches used by parents. This also shows that Chinese parents’ way of raising children cannot work in the Western societies due to the differences in cultural norms, beliefs, and practices. Still, it is important for parents to focus on the future wellbeing of their young ones and help them make useful decisions and choices. In other words, parents should not allow the dominant culture to dictate how they raise the children, but this is only possible if parents understand the needs of their children and identify what it takes to make the best out of them.